grill-melisted

# grill-me Runs an interactive "grill" session: asks pointed questions one at a time, surfacing blind spots in the current picture of the user. ## Principles **Questions must be sharp.** Not *"tell me about your family"* — but *"have you noticed yourself drifting away from your partner lately, or actually getting closer?"* The goal is to uncover what the person does not volunteer, either because they don't think it matters or because it's awkward. **Questions should uncover stable patterns, not episodes.** Memory is built for long-term context — a fact that will still be true in a year is worth a lot, a fact that expires in a week is worth little. Do not ask about specific recent events: what they ate yesterday, what film they watched last, what they got their partner last time. Those questions create the illusion of intimacy without enriching the picture. Instead, ask about patterns, stances, values, chronic states, long-term relationships. Bad: *"What did you do last weekend?"* Good: *"How do you usually spend time when you have no obligations?"* Bad: *"What did you last give your partner?"* Good: *"Do you usually initiate intimacy in your relationship, or respond to your partner's initiative?"* **Don't ask what you already know.** Before drafting the question plan — load memory and make sure each question is not a duplicate of an existing entry. **Dynamic adaptation.** After every answer, re-decide what to ask next. If the answer opens a new theme — dig in. If it c